As the year comes to an end, I like to take inventory and also reflect on it. I’ve been keeping myself in check ( gotta check yourself before you wreck yourself you know 🤭🤷🏻♀️🤨) I have been mindful and have taken the time to write a few good lessons that 2018 has left me with. Maybe you’re able to relate in some or at least reflect & make changes that are necessary. That’s ultimately my goal and purpose in sharing!
- People Pleasing 🙄✋🏽🙅🏻♀️ 🛑 Saying yes when you mean No! Learn to say No 👎 A lot of us struggle with being a “good” person and often are stuck in places & environments that are not for us. I mean this in a very kind and loving way. Be a good person but don’t waste your time proving it, the ones that truly know you will respect it. ✊ I’m a firm believer that we only get in life what we are willing to accept. Please practice Saying No ✋🏽 🛑 when needed ( Nothing wrong with that)
- Boundaries ☝🏽⚠️ To piggy back on above….Ohhhh have I learned my boundaries this year! 🙊✋🏽🤷🏻♀️ I believe you can still be loving, kind, thoughtful & most of all a giving human BUT stick to your boundaries!!!
- Say Yes More & Take Some Risks!
I know it’s contradicting with what I just said above ☝🏽 but hear me out..👂I do believe there are always exceptions & so I do think calculated risks is where we
A. Will Win 🙌 or B. Will Learn 🤷🏻♀️🙌
Both are absolutely Okay 👌🏻 and so necessary in this life! I much rather know with certainty that something didn’t work out than always have the “What if” playing in the background..Sometimes you have to break your own “Rules”🤭🙊Say YES more often when the the time calls for it ! 😬👊🏼
• Be Vulnerable and Real
If I’m honest, I’ve struggled with this for as long as I can remember. I’ve always been strong minded & just in general a strong woman. I know partially it’s because of my upbringing, my Mother ( who never ceases to amaze me by her Resilience) and whatever life has thrown at me. I’ve learned to always be everyones rock. For the longest I’ve been Strong 💪🏽 Strong & Stronger no matter what. Well, Plot Twist for me this year taught me a very valuable lesson. I allowed myself to be human, to be vulnerable & to feel all things. I even have had a few good cries when necessary. I’ve been honest when I’m not “ok” because it’s human I’m going to stumble & fall but you better believe the come up is the best part ☝🏽 So when possible be real & vulnerable ( it’s always possible) it’s beautiful thing & such a humbling experience! ☺️
•Don’t take things so personal
As hard as it is at times because we are human and a little complicated at times.
The way people behave towards you is almost never because of you. It’s a direct reflection of themselves, keep that in mind. The next time someone is short with you or rude with you do your best to not overreact or attack back. Instead of giving them back what they gave you, give them some love and kindness.We all have our days and you never know what that person is going through, be Mindful! ☝🏽 💭
- Learn to love people as they are ❤️
I know this is not an easy one ☝🏽 at all for many of us.We always want to see people especially our loved ones in better places. Unfortunately, it’s a constant fight until we change how we think and feel we will never be accepting of others. We have to also keep in mind that people can only meet us where they are mentally.🧠 💭
While I do believe we can still reach out help others, pray for them, and be there for them.They have to be willing to put in their own work and we have to be willing to love them from far even if it means taking a step back. Every case is different ❤️ Still love them but know it’s not you’re job to save everyone! (Note to myself : ✅ I can’t always be Wonder Woman got it 🙄🤷🏻♀️💪🏽⚡️)
• Be YOU!
Yes we hear this all day everyday but how many times do we water ourselves down?
Or even worse try to “Fit in “
Here’s a piece of advice Don’t!
It’s crazy how on one end they tell you “Only be yourself” and when you are they say Nope not like that ✋🏽 🙄
Fortunately, where I am in life & after putting much work. I don’t want to waste one more minute being anything other than myself. Some people will love you and others not so much 🤷🏻♀️ Guess what ? It’s Life, your tribe will find you!!!💜
( especially the more Real you are) Be confident, brave & mostly love yourself !!
- It’s never too late
Such a “cliche” statement however this year truly taught me that it really isn’t.
We get attached to ideas or let others define our dreams or ideas 💡
Whyyyy??? If we only have this one life ☝🏽 ONE ☝🏽
Why aren’t we running towards our dreams as if our lives depended on it???
Fear, Attachments, People, Distractions this list can go on and on…I came out this with this thought 💭 I can’t and won’t ever be able to settle. For this very reason I’m absolutely sure that it really never is too late! Let’s chase these dreams now more than ever 🙌😬
- Travel Travel Travel 🧭 🌎 ✈️
Travel as much as you can & as far as you can. I’ve gained so much from traveling that no classroom would ever be able to teach me. From the beautiful views, to some amazing locals, to some of the best foods I’ve ever tasted.Not to mention you’ll have the best stories from this journey.Not traveling is doing yourself a disfavor, we are such a tiny part of this entire world. Climb those mountains, ride that horse, zip line in those jungles and talk to strangers. I would like to encourage you to see this beautiful world through your own eyes. Travel also humbles you & teaches you to be open to new horizons and plans. If you get the chance please Travel Travel and Travel!!!!! ✈️✈️✈️
- When it comes to dating, relationships and love ❤️ ( 🤨🙊🔥 )
Surprise Surprise!!!💜🥰 😉
There’s still some amazingly genuine good people out there.There’s still some old school people & some old souls who will write you poetry and keep that 🔥 going.There’s some souls who will Ignite the fire within you ( When you know, you know right? 🙊🤭🤷🏻♀️) There’s people you haven’t even met yet who are waiting for you. Do not settle in this department & definitely don’t give up!!!
Your person will come, so relax ✋🏽 I suggest you work on yourself & do your work so when they arrive you are able to receive them with open arms. It’s all about timing so wait your turn but I guarantee it’s a lot closer than you think…While you’re “busy” planning life they’ll just show up ( speaking from experience 🤷🏻♀️) And when It does Show up & Go for it! ❤️
•Dance through ups and downs of life 💃
I mean this literally, sometimes we are up and sometimes we are down. If we learn to not let that dictate our present moment that is true power 💪🏽 🔥 So Dance! Lol 😝
If you learn to dance through life tho I know you’ll Smile Most! 😃 Dance in your car, dance at church, dance in your living room and in your kitchen and whenever possible! Just keep dancing! 🕺🏻 💃
I left the best one for last ☝🏽 Good Ole TRUST! Trusting God because he knows best and he knows the Whys, Whens and Hows!!!!
Sometimes we won’t know all the answers & the world will feel like it’s crashing down on us. In these times it’s so critical to remain calm and collected. The biggest challenge is trusting that the next chapter that’s about to unfold will be a better one and that everything ( and I mean everything under the sun happens for us not against us ☝🏽) Accept what is and enjoy your present moment. Keep trusting that the Man upstairs always has our back and he is always paving that road for us. Let go of controlling every situation and allow whatever needs to happen to happen… Let Go and Let God because that’s the best and only way! 🙏🏽❤️
Remember that we are only here for a limited amount of time. Therefore let’s start being better humans! 💪🏽🤗
Let’s start living a full life with no regrets of the past.Lets make peace with our lives while letting go of everything that no longer serves us. Let’s forgive and extend grace to others. Let’s be mindful, mature and responsible for our own actions. Let’s also do our own work so we can rise up to any and every tough situation. I believe most importantly and when possible be a little piece of love ❤️ to others, feed the hungry, hug the hurt, love the broken, be gentle with other people, listen to them, and leave everyone a little bit better than you found them! People rarely remember what you say but they’ll never forget how you made them feel ❤️ 🤗 Next ☝🏽 Keep in mind as I’m a true believer that our best moments haven’t happened yet so always look forward to the future! 💫
I quote C. S. Lewis “ There are far better things ahead than what we leave behind “ ❤️
I’ll conclude by wishing you guys the most amazing year to come full of Love, Peace, Good Health & Wealth! I hope you are very Intentional this year about your life! Seize all of your Days!!! 💜
I hope you were able to enjoy this post .😊 Cheers to this Beautiful New Year 2019!!! 🥂 Til My Next one Amigos ✌🏽 ❤️ Much Love!